Have, Get, Want.
Think back to being a child. If you were to hold out your hands when you wanted something, did it just magically appear? Obviously not. You first had to walk to where you parents were, address them and then let them know what was on your mind before asking for a solution. Ex. Mommy! I’m hungry. Can I have a snack? It’s simplistic, but its a fundamental example that things don’t just happen for you because you want them to.
When you’re born, what you have is what you get, but what if you want more? It’s about being the change you want to see in the world, being the prayer you wish could be answered. If you have to start at the lowest of the lowest circumstances, it can feel insanely daunting to unpack the level of adversity that it will require all at once. That’s why you work with what you have until you can work with what you can get so that you can work with what you want.
Maybe you’ve heard the book, You get what you get and you don’t throw a fit. It aims to stop the “it’s not fair” argument. You can throw a fit, but what good will that do?
As Malachy McCourt once said, “Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”
Grudges do no good whatsoever and they benefit no one, neither in our business lives nor our personal lives. The sooner you let go of time and energy you use wallowing in blame, the sooner you can use that time and energy to do something about it.
You’re going to feel pain. Pain is growth—it’s human nature, but suffering is different. Suffering is the byproduct of arguing with reality. When you cling to what your mind wants and you tell life that it messed up—it wasn’t supposed to be this way—you suffer.
You get what you get from the world around you—things happen, people leave, bodies get sick, companies downsize, feelings and minds change. Life unfolds as life unfolds and it isn’t about you. You just stand in the middle of it, feeling whatever thinking happens to be passing through your mind in each and every moment.
Diamonds don’t fall from the sky, they’re buried deep beneath the earth, while shit sits on the surface. To find those diamonds in the rough, you have to dig deep by developing the skills and tools required to unearth them. If you haven’t guessed it, you are the miner in this metaphor. The braver you explore into the unknown, the wiser you become learning the lay of the land and the harder you work to dig, you increase your chances of striking fertile soil. Ex. I have a job, so that I can get enough money to invest in my own business. (want)
-Busy Brain